GROSS: At the risk of getting too personal, have you had your share of experiences where you wake up in the morning in a stranger’s bed and think what have I done, why am I here?
C.K.: Yeah, oh sure. I usually don’t make it to the morning in situations like that.
C.K.: I usually find a way to get the hell out of there, yeah. It’s usually right after the act. I’m like wait, this is such a bad idea for both of us. I’m upset for myself and her. Yeah, I think every - almost every single time I’ve had sex with somebody for the first time, I should’ve waited, pretty much 100 percent of the time I should’ve waited a little. It never hurts.
You get two benefits. One is you realize you didn’t want to after all, and there’s something about her that, you know, you didn’t want to get that intimate. Or you get more fond of each other, and there’s more to connect about if you wait.
GROSS: Part of what you just said sounds like a rehearsal for when your daughters get just a little bit older.
GROSS: Like take it from me, you should wait.
C.K.: Yeah, exactly. Well, I do think we should tell our kids when they start making these choices, tell them the real thing. Like don’t tell them hocus pocus, you know, spooky stories, you know, you’re going to get - someone’s going to kill you, Jesus is going to hate you if you do this. Tell them the truth, which is you’re going to feel crappy if you do this.
C.K.: You’re going to feel - it’s not worth it. Just wait. It’s a very big deal to be naked in a room with a human being - to be naked in a bed with another person. That is so intimate. That’s such a big deal. And when you don’t treat it like a big deal, you get confronted with how big a deal it is as a surprise when you’re - you know, when that urge is over that got you there. So yeah, it took me, you know, about 1,000 repetitions of the mistake to sort of start to think of it as one, which I think is probably pretty common.